I’m wondering if anyone else out there is like me—a total oddball when it comes to holidays like this.
Almost every day lately, I am bombarded with Pinterest pins, blog posts, emails, and Facebook posts about the “5 Best Gifts for Mom on Mother’s Day” or “Check Out These Unique Mother’s Day Gifts!”
Friends and media personalities talk about their plans to take Mom out to a nice brunch and give her flowers and chocolate.
Hmm. Well, I think my family is weird. We don’t do that stuff. I don’t remember the last time I got my mom a Mother’s Day gift, or even a card.
It’s not like I don’t acknowledge it at all—I always call or FaceTime or text or something, but it’s usually no more than that.
Am I a bad daughter?
Does my mom feel like I don’t appreciate her?
Should I be making a bigger deal each year?
The answer to all of these questions is: I don’t think so.
My mom and I have a great, supportive relationship and we’re in contact, in some way, daily. Be it through FaceTime, text, Facebook, or emails throughout the day, we are always up in each other’s business.
I know (or at least, I’m 99% sure) that my mom is secure in my appreciation for her.
How do I show my appreciation for my mom?
1. I think that one thing my mom takes as a sign of love and appreciation is my openness with her. We talk about everything, and I don’t really hold back.
2. I reach out to my mom when bad things happen, and I reach out to her when amazing things happen. Sometimes, I reach out to her when something super mundane happens that I think she’ll find interesting.
3. I support her in her decisions, and remind her how awesome she is when she seems to need that.
4. Whenever she says any nonsense about how she “could have been a better mom” or whatever, I quickly squash that garbage.
Working moms, listen up: Being a busy, working mother who also tries to take care of herself by getting a bit of exercise does not make you a bad mom!! It makes you a wonderful role model. **Necessary disclaimer: Stay-at-home moms, I am not saying you’re not good role models! If you set good examples for your kids, no matter how you do it, you are a good role model! Good job, you rock! 🙂
I never once felt unloved by my mom—I always knew she loved and supported me. I never felt that she didn’t have time for me, or anything like that. But for some reason she still thinks she should have given me more. Nope. It’s all good.
5. On my wedding day, my mom walked me down the aisle, with my dad. I couldn’t have imagined it any other way.
What about me?
Yeah, I’m a mom. Nope, my husband, Josh, doesn’t do anything much (on behalf of my not-able-to-comprehend-it-yet son), either. As much as I love surprises and feeling special, I don’t expect anything and I’m not too sad when my expectations become reality.
Usually, Josh says something like, “Happy Mother’s Day,” and asks Z to do the same. I will probably get some hugs and kisses, and then we will go about our day. We’ll go grocery shopping and then Josh will go play soccer while I hang with Z.
And then it will be Monday.
Will I do something for my dad or for Josh on Father’s Day? Probably not! I’d love to say that I will, but I can honestly say we will most likely do the same things on Father’s Day that we did on Mother’s Day.
Do I think people who do celebrate Mother’s Day are silly?
Not at all! I actually wish I were more like you. I wish I had the creativity, energy, and determination to craft some cute little present or set up some nice little brunch and really do it right.
I don’t love the fact that I don’t make a big deal out of these things, I just think it’s not in my DNA.
My parents never did much for these holidays, and my husband is of the same mindset.
It’s just not how we’re programmed, and since the members of my immediate family are all that way, I honestly can’t see it changing.
Is anyone else out there like us?
Please help me believe we’re not the only lame people out there who don’t do much of anything for Mother’s Day!
And to all of you out there who are actually with it and will be celebrating on Sunday, have an amazing time!